05 December 2011

vintage swag(her)



On Sunday Ric and I decided to try and beat the Christmas chaos by going to shop for presents at the Rosebank Rooftop Market. 

The focus was originally on buying presents for family and friends but when we happened upon the SWAG suitcase-bed for dogs, any semblance of focus was tossed aside as we entered into “whogivesadamnit’ssofreakingcool” frivolous-spending-mode.

Although the daughters are enjoying the bed, I’m still not quite sure if the purchase was made with us or them in mind.

Ghetto Sesame Street


The Real "Big Bird"
-Holy Jesus-


04 December 2011

Anniversary

A year on I still think of you
(some days more than others).
A year on the feelings are less consuming, less bitter.
More familiar.

As far as I am able,
I wish you happiness.
As far as I am able,
I apologise for all the hurt I caused you.
As far as I am able,
I forgive you for all the hurt you caused me.

Things didn’t turn out as we had hoped.
It is what it is.



01 December 2011

Ballad (of the Sad Cafe) - Carson McCullers

“First of all, love is a joint experience between two persons — but the fact that it is a joint experience does not mean that it is a similar experience to the two people involved. There are the lover and the beloved, but these two come from different countries. Often the beloved is only a stimulus for all the stored-up love which had lain quiet within the lover for a long time hitherto. And somehow every lover knows this. He feels in his soul that his love is a solitary thing. He comes to know a new, strange loneliness and it is this knowledge which makes him suffer. So there is only one thing for the lover to do. He must house his love within himself as best he can; he must create for himself a whole new inward world — a world intense and strange, complete in himself. Let it be added here that this lover about whom we speak need not necessarily be a young man saving for a wedding ring — this lover can be man, woman, child, or indeed any human creature on this earth.

Now, the beloved can also be of any description. The most outlandish people can be the stimulus for love. A man may be a doddering great-grandfather and still love only a strange girl he saw in the streets of Cheehaw one afternoon two decades past. The preacher may love a fallen woman. The beloved may be treacherous, greasy-headed, and given to evil habits. Yes, and the lover may see this as clearly as anyone else — but that does not affect the evolution of his love one whit. A most mediocre person can be the object of a love which is wild, extravagant, and beautiful as the poison lilies of the swamp. A good man may be the stimulus for a love both violent and debased, or a jabbering madman may bring about in the soul of someone a tender and simple idyll. Therefore, the value and quality of any love is determined solely by the lover himself.

It is for this reason that most of us would rather love than be loved. Almost everyone wants to be the lover. And the curt truth is that, in a deep secret way, the state of being beloved is intolerable to many. The beloved fears and hates the lover, and with the best of reasons. For the lover is forever trying to strip bare his beloved. The lover craves any possible relation with the beloved, even if this experience can cause him only pain.”


Rub it better 'till it bleeds


30 November 2011

Gratitude

Ric and I have been watching the most obscenely addictive series called “Spartacus: Blood and Sand” and “Spartacus: Gods of the Arena”. As the title intimates, the series centers on the life of Gladiators in ancient Rome. It’s as stylized as “300” and as thematically epic as “Gladiator”. It’s definitely not “high-brow” and is basically a continuous onslaught of gratuitous violence, sex and talking-in-the-third-person but, oh my, it’s so much fun.


I guess my impartiality towards the show was slightly hindered by Andy Whitfield who played Spartacus (read: drool). I’ve been really sad (way too sad given that I don’t know Andy Whitfield) to find out that he died in September this year after losing his battle with non-Hodgkin lymphoma. It's frightening that someone who seems to be in the peak of his life and health is still, fundamentally, so fragile. What a waste of talent. And beauty. Damn. On another note, Xena is in the series (not as Xena of course, but for those of us who grew up in the nineties, Xena will never be anything other than Xena). I think some strange boyhood fantasy of Ric's was realized when he got to see Xena's boobies.

Andy Whitfield
Xena Warrior Princess
Xena sneaky under-cover Warrior Princess


histoire en images





Surfaced

The work by Fred Clarke, which we bought a few weeks ago at the Satellite Spaces exhibition, arrived just over a week ago.

Verdict?

Worth every single cent.
I couldn’t have asked for anything better.
It will have a loving and appreciative home.

{the photo does it no justice}


29 November 2011

baroness.barreness


“But the hearts of small children are delicate organs. A cruel beginning in this world can twist them into curious shapes. The heart of a hurt child can shrink so that forever afterward it is hard and pitted as the seed of a peach. Or again, the heart of such a child may fester and swell until it is a misery to carry within the body, easily chafed and hurt by the most ordinary things.”
Carson McCullers

Verdict

“It’s crazy that the idea of animal rights seems crazy to anyone. We live in a world in which it’s conventional to treat an animal like a hunk of wood and extreme to treat an animal like an animal”…

I finished reading “Eating Animals” by Jonathan Safran Foer about two weeks ago. Possibly the best non-fiction book I’ve ever read, definitely the toughest book I’ve ever read. Whichever way you approach it, a book about eating animals is never going to be an easy read and I often had to force myself to pick it up again- it would have been exceedingly easy to put it down for good. The book is well written, well researched and well thought out- as was to be expected. What surprised me however, was the multiplicity of viewpoints, philosophies and practical approaches raised for and against, eating animals. I like to think that I’m pretty well-versed with the state of animal farming in South Africa and abroad- factually I am- but I’d never really considered the philosophy and motive(s) behind it all, other than having a strong (but vaguely articulated) aversion to equating animals with goods. This book was an education and a revelation.

To be honest, I’m still undecided as to whether I’m opposed to the use of animals for food in and of itself or whether I’m opposed to the epidemic of commercial animal factory “farms” which are the antithesis of traditional (read: practically extinct) farming and animal husbandry methods- the arguments voiced for both positions are really convincing. One case study is that of a vegan (yes vegan) beef farmer whose primary concern is for the welfare of animals during their lifetime, her reasoning being that she would rather be part of the animal husbandry process, by providing an alternative to factory farming, than opt-out altogether and allow corporations to proliferate their torture and abuse. Then you get the animal rights (as opposed to welfare) argument which opposes the exploitation of animals for any purpose whatsoever.

Foer doesn’t impose any view on you. I was simultaneously relieved and challenged by this- he gives you the facts but the decision is your own, which is a lot of responsibility. In the end, that’s what the book is about. Taking responsibility. I have a friend who has said on numerous occasions that the real test for a vegetarian is whether or not they eat “meat” flavoured chips. I’d never quite understood the logic of such a “test” but my friend has always propounded this theory with such confidence and conviction that I thought there had to be a grain of truth in it. When asked why I don’t eat meat, my standard response has always been that I’ve never really liked it. It’s amazing how quickly this will suffice for a valid answer. During the course of reading the book I realized that I’ve used this answer as a means of avoiding confrontation and the underlying topic. In its own way, it shirked responsibility from me in that I never really “decided” not to eat meat, I just didn’t “like” the taste of it. What I realized is that eating meat is a choice that people make each day between complicity and responsibility. Between two different types of gratification - immediate (read: I feel like a burger) versus delayed (read: even though I feel like a burger and miss the taste of meat a fuck-load, I refuse to ignore and shirk responsibility for what happened to this animal before it became a patty on a burger).

I feel that everyone should be duty-bound to read this book regardless of whether they are vegan, vegetarian or a meat-eater. This book isn’t a sermon. It’s an education.

P 90 Eating Animals:

            “The first time I was exposed to farming issues was when a friend showed me some films of cows being slaughtered. We were teenagers, and it was just gross-out shit, like those “faces of Death” videos. He wasn’t a vegetarian-no one was vegetarian- and he wasn’t trying to make me one. It was for a laugh.
            We had drumsticks for dinner that night, and I couldn’t eat mine. When I held the bone in my hand, it didn’t feel like chicken, but a chicken. I always knew I was eating an individual, I suppose, but it never hit me before. My dad asked me what was wrong, and I told him about the video. At that point in my life, I took whatever he said to be the truth, and I was sure he could explain everything. But the best he could come up with was something like “It’s unpleasant stuff”. If he’d left it there, I probably wouldn’t be talking to you now. But then he made a joke about it. The same joke everyone makes. I’ve heard it a million times since. He pretended he was a crying animal. It was revealing to me, and infuriating. I decided then and there never to become someone who told jokes when explanations were impossible.”

P92 Eating Animals:

            “These factory farmers calculate how close to death they can keep the animals without killing them. That’s the business model. How quickly can they be made to grow, how tightly can they be packed, how much or little can they eat, how sick can they get without dying.
            This isn’t animal experimentation, where you can imagine some proportionate good at the other end of the suffering. This is what we feel like eating. Tell me something: Why is taste, the crudest of our senses, exempted from the ethical rules that govern our other senses? If you stop and think about it, it’s crazy. Why doesn’t a horny person have as strong a claim to raping an animal as a hungry one does to killing and eating it? It’s easy to dismiss that question but hard to respond to it. And how would you judge an artist who mutilated animals in a gallery because it was visually arresting? How riveting would the sound of a tortured animal need to be to make you want to hear it that badly? Try to imagine any other end other than taste for which it would be justifiable to do what we do to farmed animals.”